Co-dependence

Co-dependency is a type of relationship where at least one person is dependent on the other person for their sense of identity, self-worth, and happiness. This can be a very unhealthy and destructive relationship, as it can lead to feelings of isolation, low self-esteem, and resentment.

Co-dependency can also feel incredibly connecting, intimate, and fulfilling at times, which can make it feel very 'right' in some moments, while it is also feels harmful at other times. This experience can be incredibly disorienting.

Here are some signs of co-dependency in a relationship:

• At least one person feels responsible for the other person's happiness. They may constantly try to please the other person or make sure they are happy, even if it means sacrificing their own needs.

• At least one person has a hard time setting boundaries. They may allow the other person to walk all over them or take advantage of them.

• At least one person has a hard time saying no. They may feel like they can't say no to the other person, even if they don't want to do something.

• At least one person has a hard time expressing their own needs and wants. They may feel like they can't ask for what they want or need, because they don't want to upset the other person.

• At least one person feels like they can't live without the other person. They may feel like they are incomplete without the other person and that they can't function on their own.

At Catalyzing Courage, we can work with one or more people involved in a co-dependent relationship. There are many advantages to working with the whole relationship, but we understand that is not always feasible. We can do a lot of work one-on-one. It is often the case when working with the relationship, we will split into separate sessions or work on individual projects as the work is often different for each person. The advantage of working with everyone is that each person has more context and understanding about the changes in the relationship, which can make the process less difficult.

Our process will emphasize separation in the relationship, which will entail a process of each person becoming their own person and empowering them to take on new challenges in their individual life. In the relationship, we will focus on communication, boundaries, and asserting needs within the relationship. Shifting responsibility will also play a major role as there will be an emphasis that each person is only responsible for their own feelings. Everyone should be considerate of others, but ultimately, it is critical to put their own needs first.

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