Polyamory vs. Monogamy: What's the Difference?

RELATIONSHIPS

7/17/20232 min read

man and woman holding hand together
man and woman holding hand together

Polyamory and monogamy are two different relationship styles. Polyamory is a relationship structure in which people are open to having multiple romantic and/or sexual partners, with the knowledge and consent of all partners involved. Monogamy, on the other hand, is a relationship structure in which people are committed to having one romantic and/or sexual partner at a time.

What is Polyamory?

The word "polyamory" comes from the Greek words "poly" (many) and "amor" (love). It literally means "many loves." However, polyamory is not just about having multiple partners. It is also about having multiple relationships that are based on love, honesty, and respect.

What is Monogamy?

The word "monogamy" comes from the Greek words "mono" (one) and "gamos" (marriage). It literally means "one marriage." However, monogamy is not just about being married to one person. It is also about being committed to having one romantic and/or sexual partner at a time.

Differences Between Polyamory and Monogamy

There are many differences between polyamory and monogamy. Some of the key differences include:

  • Number of partners: Polyamory allows for multiple partners, while monogamy is limited to one partner.

  • Communication: Polyamory requires more communication than monogamy, as partners need to be open and honest about their feelings and relationships.

  • Trust: Polyamory requires a high level of trust, as partners need to trust each other to be honest and faithful.

  • Jealousy: Polyamory can be more challenging for people who experience jealousy, as they need to learn to manage their jealousy in a healthy way.

Which is Right for You?

There is no right or wrong answer when it comes to polyamory and monogamy. The best relationship style for you is the one that feels right for you. If you are considering polyamory, it is important to do your research and talk to other polyamorous people to see if it is a good fit for you.

Conclusion

Polyamory and monogamy are two different relationship styles with their own unique advantages and disadvantages. The best way to decide which relationship style is right for you is to explore both options and see what feels right for you.

Resources

  • Podcasts:

    • Multiamory

    • Polyamory Weekly

    • The Jealousy Workbook

    • Opening Up

    • Where Should We Begin?

  • Websites:

    • The Polyamory Education Network

    • More Than Two

    • The Ethical Slut

    • Polysecure

    • Polyamory Today